Month: May 2018

Don’t lose your mind when you lose a job.

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Click at the bottom of this post and watch another woman’s success at winning the game of a real life job search.

Listen people I’ve been at this for ten years now. In those ten years I’ve been hired 4 times permanently. I’ve also worked at over 25 temping jobs in for profit and non-profit companies. Yeah, that’s right ten years. I celebrated on February 6, 2018 my last long-term job that lasted you guessed it 10 years. I am in a 10 for 10 mode. 10 years of job stability followed by 10 years of “what’s next?” in the job market. And I mean it NEXT!

I’ve networked, attended seminars, job fairs, workshops, attended classes online and off, taken personality tests, LinkedIn myself out,  and read dozens of books. I even took 4 months off to attend a women’s work training program. In all this time I am here stronger than ever. 20 years experience does that to you.

Call me a veteran if you like because the working world is a war zone.

This upcoming Tuesday, May 16, 2018 I have an interview and guess what? I am just going to be myself. With all that I’ve done what more is there for me to prepare for? You either want me or you don’t.

Right now I am feeling mighty powerful.

What’s my secret?

Again, click at the bottom of this post and watch one woman’s success at winning at the job search just as I want you to do.

The Bible.

No religious speech.

The Bible you see is a book filled with people who lived, faced adversities of being human, and died. It’s as simple at that.

In all those setbacks you find in those biblical stories, most and not all mastered just two things.  Here they are:  their relation to God who they can’t see and  life on Earth which they can see.

Now back to where I left off in this game called the job search. I am still a work in progress. You win some, you lose some. Life puts you through some tests and no one comes out with a 4.0 average. For all the nerds out there, you can stop reading because in life you will fail alot of tests.

There are certain jobs that people have like lawyer, accountant, doctor, surgeon, judge, police officer etc. that have clear paths. And even then,  in some paths you have to specialize in one area as with a doctor you would specialize in a body part such as the foot, heart, delivering babies etc.

What about the rest of us who have been factory workers, technicians, secretaries, clerks, computer engineers, etc. where artificial intelligence has pretty much not created the need for as many workers as before?

You’ve got to specialize and show your value. You really have to focus on one thing and do it so well that people will stop and watch you and say wow!

I don’t care if you can sing, bake, ride a bike, sew some clothes. You got to do something that makes people stand up and take notice. Don’t limit yourself to one thing, just one thing at a time.  Mastering anything takes time and focused attention. Don’t think you need to go to school or put out any money when money is an issue. Why do you think there are libraries, intenships, and temporary employment agencies? You gotta work to find work. If sitting behind a computer all day isn’t helping you find a job, you have get up and go out and find people to talk to that will help you find that job.

It’s call fighting back. Taking a stand for your life. And not being defined by a job. One thing is for sure, work will come. We humans are on this earth for a purpose. Stand up from where you are and get up and live out that purpose. But before you get up – think about what and where you really would like to be and go out and search it and you will find it.

And if you end up in a place with less money, realize the money was never important in the first place. Life is not valued by what you have but what you are becoming.

Don’t give up or give in , just be content that you have something to give.

Click on and see how Elizabeth White did it. Watch all 4 YouTube presentations.

Remember,  you are not alone.

Watch “55, unemployed and faking normal: One woman’s story of barely scraping by” on YouTube
https://youtu.be/as6bS-7ZlgQ

Watch “Are you hanging off a financial cliff? Here’s how to cope” on YouTube
https://youtu.be/rzi0Eedks7U

Watch “How coming clean about financial struggle — and counseling others — became a calling” on YouTube
https://youtu.be/bWsLvCqAyDA

Watch “Fifty-five, Unemployed, Faking Normal | Elizabeth White | TEDxVCU” on YouTube
https://youtu.be/hFpQ5N_ttNQ

On my way to the ladies room at Macy’s, a 34th St. miracle

 

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In some far off corner at Macy’s 34th St. store I stumbled onto a surprise.   As I was rushing to the 6th floor ladies room, something familiar caught my left eye.

There high on top of a shelf was the name of the country of my birth, Haiti.

Macy’s has on display Haitian crafts for sale called “Heart of Haiti.”

It seemed odd to me that these expertly woven baskets would be hidden away in a corner of the store.

Before I entered the latrine, I quickly snatched this picture as proof of my unexpected find. Nature was really calling.

As I came out of the bathroom, I tried to make sense of why these Haitian crafts were where they were. Next to the bathroom of all places. Maybe, putting this display next to a bathroom would force customers to actually take a look at products from Haiti?

The equalizer of us all is that we all need to use the toilet or rather in some countries, it’s simply a hole in the ground.

Retail space must be very expensive. Therefore, all possible space must be used   to “sell.”

I was really in a good mood, really I was. I had just saw a fashion show given by the Young Professionals of the New York Urban League on the 5th floor. That is until I saw where all of these Haitian products were at,  put a downer on my mood.

I then connected all the negative remarks that were heard in the media recently about Haiti & other African countries that produced a media storm. You don’t know what to believe anymore among the many actors fighting to push their agenda on unsuspecting victims.

I guess you can call me overly sensitive. The media does have an effect on us all whether we realize it or not.

I decided to brush off all of my overthinking.

Whenever I had entered a bathroom in a store before, I never took notice to what type of products were being sold next to the bathroom.

So why now?

About two months ago I completed a Dean Graziosi 30 day challenge to improve my thinking. And you know what one of the challenges were¿- watch no news for 7 days .

Still all of the negativity in the media does slip in from our smart phones and the free papers that are shoved on us as we enter the subway.

I did make a mental  note to come back to this particular Macy’s and buy a Haitian basket.  It’s the least that I could do.

And I vowed to not let the media get the best of me again. Question all that’s being thrown at us on a daily basis.

As someone once told me a long time ago, “Don’t believe the hype.”

And that’s the real miracle that can happen to you on 34th St.